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The Internal Family Systems therapy model suggests that there are a number of parts that a playing a role in one's personality.  That is each part can be considered a subpersonality.

This is not a mental disorder but the model identifies the inner voices that advise us on the processes we use.  There are limitations to the model so care should be used in utilising the model.

Arguably people develop personas, masks or parts to get along in society and that showing one's true Self can be painful, often learned early in life such as at school.

Each part has a positive intent but it may not actually be the result.  Each part is a persona with its own personality.  They suggest that each part is like a little person inside of us.  This is somewhat curious that the psychic experience is like this.

This model seems somewhat strange that it is like Schizophrenia but it is not deluded into separate entities.  There are any number of parts within one's personality.

Parts that become extreme are considered to carry "Burdens" - a construct of beliefs, emotions or fantasies.

Parts that have lost trust in the leadership of the Self will blend or take over the Self.

IFS also sees people as being whole, underneath this collection of parts. Everyone has a true self or spiritual center, known as the Self to distinguish it from the parts. Even people whose experience is dominated by parts have access to this Self and its healing qualities of curiosity, connectedness, compassion, and calmness. IFS sees the therapist's job as helping the client to disentangle themselves from their parts and access the Self, which can then connect with each part and heal it, so that the parts can let go of their destructive roles and enter into a harmonious collaboration, led by the Self. IFS explicitly recognizes the spiritual nature of the Self, allowing the model to be helpful in spiritual development as well as psychological healing.

Self is the leader of the other parts, so the self is naturally interested in connecting with the other parts.  This model is curious in that each part is recognized as a personality in its own right.  So the Self may question, interact or be compassionate with the parts.  This makes sense that many parts may be primal in origin and other parts may be modern in origin, thereby allowing us to deal with each part in an abstract way.

Self is not manufactured.  Self is love that looks after the parts and is defined by the core values.

Accepting all of the inner parts can be difficult.  One of the inner parts that I have found difficult to accept is my shy side.  The shy part is probably an exile.  In that case it would have been getting to know the exile and understand the pain that the part was in.  To have clarity I have to set other parts aside to accept the shy part.  One of the key things is to heal the part.

Usually there is a Protector covering the Exile, build trust with the protector to get permission from the Protectors to work with the Exiles so that healing can be done.  There are three healing steps. In self observe the burden. One is Reparenting where the Exile is given the correct parenting pattern.  Retrieval is where the Exile is taken out of the past and taken into a new place.  Finally is unburdening where the Exile is asked to release the burdens to light, fire water etc.  Finally the protector is approached to release its role as protector of the other part.

Self is the natural leader and also the healer of all of the subpersonalities.  If the Self becomes sufficiently weak then a protector will take over the role of Self, leaving little ability to heal since protectors are resistive and critical.

Personally I have experienced a situation where the Self has failed and an emotionless protector taken over the lead.  One of my protectors has the capacity to work in a totally unemotional way.  I expect that this would be a particularly useful subpersonalityfor hunting prey or acts of war that is put away at the end of the activity and emotional response allowed to return from the Self.

Exiles are child parts that hold pain as a result of traumatic experience, harmful or neglectful relationships.

Once an Exile is released from its Burden it returns to its state of being playful or loving or strong or whatever it happens to be.

Firefighters are parts that emerge when exiles break out and demand attention. These parts work to distract a person's attention from the hurt or shame experienced by the exile by leading them to engage in impulsive behaviors like overeating, drug use, fighting, or having inappropriate sex. They can also distract from the pain by causing a person to focus excessively on more subtle activities such as overworking, over-medicating

Jay Early says that there is not just one Inner Critic, that many parts may be inner critics.  Each of them may need to be addressed seperately.  There might be a food critic, exercise critic or relationship critic that are separate parts.

Inner critics released can often become the Inner Mentor, motivating you instead of criticizing

Protectors also known as Managers are parts with preemptive protective roles.  Protectors arise to try and protect us from pain.  They arise generally in childhood in a situation where a person is generally being harmed in some way.  A protector will arise to protect you from the pain.  

Protectors can also come later in life to protect us from pain.  Once protectors are no longer needed after the Exiles have been released then they take a different role in the psychic